Surrender is such a sticky little subject. There are so many negative connotations related to the concept. The thought of any kind of surrendering…to anyone, anything and in any way shape or form brings up great resistance.
The thought of surrender makes us feel vulnerable, weak, out of control, less than or that we lost or gave up. These are feelings most of us spend our whole life avoiding or healing from at least on some level.
I am becoming more and more intrigued by the power of surrender in my own life. I am beginning to see the beauty of it in several areas of my life.
I have spent my whole life trying very hard not to surrender to anything or anyone…including myself. Not to surrender to my anger, my frustration, loneliness, doubt, fear and even my love or joy (better not do that because as soon as I do…it might disappear).
I cannot surrender to my anger because I might “lose it” and do something “regrettable” or I might upset the apple cart.read more
There is one very important question that we have to ask ourselves regularly… constantly actually.
It is a question that we are often afraid to ask. We are shamed from an early age NOT to ask this question. For if we do, we are told we are being selfish, spoiled, egotistical or worse.
If you watch little kids up until we start conditioning them…they are constantly living by this question. It never occurs to them to not ask it. It comes naturally.
I am here to tell you something different than what you have been hearing your whole life. I am here to tell you that you MUST ask this question if you want to be the best woman, mom, wife, sister, business owner, employee, lover, friend, community leader.
It really feels like a complete oxymoron (that is such a funny word).
The question to ask yourself is: What do I want?
Yes, I am telling you that it is okay to ask yourself and learn about what it is you want. In fact, it is required if you want to live a life of passion, peace, presence and pleasure!
Happy 4th of July (a day early) to my American friends! It is such a great time of year. Summer is in full throttle, we celebrate the birth of our nation, spend time with friends and family and my favorite part…fireworks! I need to clarify… I do not like the loud, often annoying firecrackers, bottle rockets and the like…but I love the colorful bursts of color and sparkle that light up the sky. They make me happy. Very happy.
This past weekend I hosted my first Soothe Your Soul retreat. I have to tell you it was off the charts AWESOME. The women that came together were so amazing. They were so generous, open and honest with their sharing and support of one another. It was really a beautiful sight to witness.
This week I have clutter on my mind. It is so interesting to me how so often themes run through my client sessions even though my clients do not even know each other. And it is also interesting that these same themes are often running through my life too. I know that this is no accident or coincidence.
So this week (and the last few weeks actually) clutter has been top of mind in some form or another.
We are doing some work on our house to prepare to place it on the market. I had to move my office space out of the downstairs temporarily in order for my husband to do the work he needed to do. When I went to move my stuff back, it was totally overwhelming. I did not realize how many books, papers and other things I had. I literally was paralyzed just looking at it. I ignored my basement for at least a couple weeks…feeling like going through all the stuff was just too much. I could not seem to start.read more
Recently I was driving back from a meeting in Kansas City on a Saturday afternoon. I left the meeting knowing I needed to stop and get some gas, but decided to get on the other side of the city, stop for lunch and get gas then so I would not have to stop twice.
I stopped for lunch and then proceeded to get in my car… and just kept driving. I totally forgot I needed gas. About 45 minutes later my car started sputtering. I thought to myself what could be wrong with my car…and then I thought “oh, sh$#….I forgot to get gas!” I started to panic a little. There was nowhere to pull over, the shoulder was very narrow and I was literally out in the middle of the country. I sputtered along to the top of the little hill and thankfully I saw this little roadside store just ahead.
I pulled in and as soon as I was off the road, my car died.
Yep…. I have a little confession to make.
I have been participating in a month long food cleanse with my mentor and an amazing group of other women across the country.
The truth is, as a cleanse goes, this is really gentle and most of the foods on the do not eat list are things I normally do not have much of anyway. So going into it I thought this would be a breeze… I have this… easy peasy.
The door to your happiness that is.
Recently I came across a parable that has shifted me and how I live my daily life in a huge, beautiful way. Some attribute this parable to the Cherokee, some to Native Americans in general, others say it is anonymous, so I am not sure which is right. I have heard it and read in two different forms and I so I decided to share the wording that resonates with me.
So here goes…
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is the wolf of fear – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is the wolf of love – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Wow. That still stops me in my tracks. Could it really be that simple?
I have been asked recently by a few different people about the programs and the “work” I have done on my journey…
I have to say I have done a ton of things during my life and in particular over the last 10 years.
Some of those experiences have been instantly life changing and some have been a slow and steady presence. My journey and growth has involved books… tons of books (just ask Amazon!), lectures and workshops, teleseminars, tele-classes, retreats, certification and training programs, working directly with several mentors and coaches, and deep and expansive conversations with other seekers.
This journey is ongoing and always evolving.